Zurf,
I am sorry to hear about the stress and turmoil you and your family are facing but good things will happen to good people so I am sure you will be fine. In fact, it sounds like you may already have a good situation to contemplate.
I was fired from my job in 2002 in response to the downturn in the market after 9/11. At the time I was terrified. I had a young family and a mortgage and it was damn hard to find a job in that economy. I really had a good helmet-shaking during this time.
However, it turned out to the one of the BEST THINGS THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME! What I did not know at the time is that my firing set the course for me to ultimately get to my current job - the best job I've ever had and I think one of the best jobs in the world! Of course, it took several years for the "plan" to be revealed to me and several more for me to put myself in a position to help make it happen. But I've never been happier and I look back on those "dark" dark days for 2002 with a pleasant thankfulness.
One of my theories: Good will always prevail.
My accompanying corollary: Not necessarily on YOUR time schedule.
Keep you head up and stay focused on continuing to be the man you are. Things will work out. And all of your friends here at Chordie are hear for you.
dj